Welcome to Safe Place Conversations™

Safe Place Conversations™ is a revolutionary way to conduct Pastoral Counseling Sessions using Push-To-Talk technology.

Traditional Pastoral Counseling, either in person or on Zoom, for 45 mins to an hour can be exhausting, draining, and not as productive as they could be.

With Safe Place Conversations™ you don’t have to look your counselor in the eye or know they are looking at you while you describing difficult and painful situations you have experienced such as trauma, abuse, or loss.

Instead, Safe Place Conversations™ allows you to live your life while being able to have ample time to process your thoughts and feelings without the traditional Pastoral Counseling time frame. This is perfect for those who prefer or desire a longer processing time. These Conversations are richer as they take place over the span of 1 day, roughly from 9:00am-5:00pm EST.

    What is Push-To-Talk technology?

    Push-To-Talk technology is like using a walkie-talkie that allows you to exchange voice and text messages with someone else. There are several options but my favorite is Voxer. It is easy to download and use on your phone, or you can use it in your browser with your computer.

    What if I don’t know what Voxer is?

    Most tools out there today were once new too: Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, Zoom, Slack, Google Drive. Yet, because they were the best tools to get the job done, they were welcomed with little to no resistance. 

    Voxer offers a free version that will allow you to see and hear our messages for 30 days. This will give you time to re-listen to the clips and make notes.

    Do I have to use Voxer?

    You don’t have to use Voxer, but you would risk having all of your personal details where you can’t control them. Messenger allows Android users to record 59 second messages. Lastly, Messenger and WhatsApp are both owned by Meta/Facebook, need I say more?

    What are some topics that could be discussed?

    • Grieving the loss of a loved one
    • Processing difficult or traumatic life events
    • Coping with illness
    • Handling major life changes, times of transition, or a life crisis
    • Parenting difficulties
    • Preparing for marriage or adjusting to divorce
    • Integrating faith with daily life
    • Strengthening relationships (including the one with you and God)
    • Working through conflicts (including a crisis of faith)

    Think of it as picking something from your laundry list you call life. When you register for you slot, you will be prompted to share the potential topic(s) you are hoping to discuss.

     

     

      Why is Safe Place Conversations™ better than traditional sessions?

      There are a couple of amazing benefits about Safe Place Conversations™ that you just don’t get with a traditional Pastoral Counseling 45-60-minute session including working on your To-Do List. For example:

      ✔ You get to ponder on topics before replying, so you are not just reacting to your counselor’s input because you feel the need to fill the silence.

      ✔ You get to go deeeep without the stress of only having 60 minutes to work through topics.

      ✔ Free up time! You can do other things, like drop the kids off at school, take them to sports or activities, work, clean house, pick up groceries, etc. all while still getting some invaluable 1-on-1 support.

      What preparations do I need to do?

      • Select a day where you won’t be tied up constantly. You want to have some open time to really get into the discussion.
      • Decide what you want to discuss or work on
      • Use a headset or earbuds so you can hear my replies. You are welcome to type your replies, but mine will be voice ones.
      • Take notes
      • Plan to be in your Safe Place so you can feel comfortable getting vulnerable and sharing important details.

       

       

       

        What is does be in your Safe Place mean?

        I created the Safe Place™ to help my Pastoral Counseling clients come up with an imaginary place or space in which they can go to (or escape to). Think of the old commercial, “Calgon, take me away.”

        What can I use?

        The idea was to create a space or a place where you feel super safe, comfortable, willing to work on the hard stuff, and can be vulnerable. For some of my clients they use the example I presented of a submarine. Others use a tent at their favorite camp site, a cabana at their favorite beach, a hunting cabin in the woods, a tree house from your old yard, a comfy chair in your favorite room, or a bathtub filled with luxurious bubbles.

        My Safe Place™ is anywhere in the mountains where it is cool enough to wrap up in my favorite fuzzy blanket, a good book, and a large cup of coffee.

        The coolest part is that you get to decorate your Safe Place™ as you desire. Some of my submarine clients have decorated it to look like the inside of the bottle from “I Dream of Jeannie.” Some have added lots of comfy pillows, fuzzy blankets with a blanket warmer, mini fridge, or a soda fountain with that perfect ice like Sonic has. Some have added stereos with all their favorite songs, a rocker function for calming down, or a hug setting. The sky is the limit since it is your space.

        How does it work?

        Whenever you are feeling stressed, having a challenging day, being triggered, or need to process any emotions or thoughts, you can slip into that Safe Place™ in your mind. It can be a short-term escape or an opportunity to process a situation you are struggling with.

        You might need to cool off and calm down, maybe you need to refocus your brain and find your voice. The key is to think through the situation and determine how to deal with it. Some clients find it helpful to journal while they are in their favorite place.

        What it is not?

        Your Safe Place™ is not a permanent place to hold up, avoid life or that bad situation. It isn’t where you go to avoid your family, friends, chores, and life.

        Why does it work?

        Your Safe Place™ works because you create and design it to be super comfortable. That means it is where you can let your hair down and be you. This is an important part of the Safe Place Conversations™ process. When you feel safe you are more comfortable sharing your challenges and receiving feedback. You are comfortable and willing to go to the ugly places because you are safe.

         

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